We’ve all been there…quitting a job we hate. It’s easy right? You enter your bosses office with a self-righteous swagger and an aura of power. You deliver the news in the most creative way possible just to see the flinch, the fear, the look of utter madness that their very best employee just gave them the boot! Oh how the tables have turned, you muse! Ha! That’ll show em!
Quitting a job you love is another story. You might be meandering down your life-path, quite content, when all of a sudden an exit sign shows up and you’re faced with a decision to stay on the path or veer off into the unknown. Your decision to go for it opens up a whole can of whoopee pies…how do you tell your boss you’re leaving?
This may sound overly simplistic, but please apply the appropriate amount of deodorant. Degree…isn’t that the one that dials up when the stress kicks in? Buy some of that. There is nothing worse than trying to deliver bad news and smelling like the turnip truck your boss thinks you just fell off of. You’ll miss out on the whole “awww, we’re going to miss you so much” response you were hoping for.
You would probably also want to make a quick trip to the washroom. Piddling the floor or clenching your legs together aren’t super attractive and won’t convey the right message that you’re trying to get across.
Let’s say you work in an industry handling sensitive financial and/or personal information. When you give your notice you might be quickly propelled to the door. Prepare for that! Clean out your desk and office space of personal items right before you talk to your boss. Let me tell you from experience that even if it’s been your own choice to leave, being walked to the door makes you feel like a criminal! So, take back a measure of your pride by having your packing done. By the way, leave behind all company assets…you could be sued for taking office supplies and anything else that does not belong to you.
Please don’t bring dynamite to the big reveal party. Burning bridges is the last thing you want to do…life is a funny thing, one day you may meet up with your co-workers or boss under different circumstances. The way that you handle the departure will be the last thing they remember of you.
Prepare for the discussion you will have. Think through your timelines carefully, and be open with your boss about what your needs are and give plenty of lead-time so they can prepare to fill your vacancy.
Put away to Kleenex box when, after the initial shock has worn off in the office, people take you off e-mail distribution lists and you’re not invited to meetings. Humans have a tremendous ability to adapt quickly to change. This adaptation is no reflection on the job you did or your value as an employee. Rather, a new pecking order has emerged and everyone’s going to be hustling to find their place in the company hierarchy.
POST TRAMATIC CARE:
Post-haste get to your favorite spa. There is nothing more soothing than a massage followed by a mani-pedi and a few tears sploshing into the complimentary glass or two of wine.
Stay focused on why you needed a change. Underneath all the emotional drama you have just endured are some solid and profound reasons you decided that the fork was the one to take. Be true to yourself and be proud of having the nerve to follow your passions in a world where mediocrity is the easier route.
And, last…hope like heck you made the right choice.